The funeral is on Monday.
I wrote a poem for Grandma, which is my way of expressing and saying goodbye; and one individual in the family firmly and steadfastly worked hard to deny me the opportunity to read this tribute at the funeral. Saying things like “the minister said there can be only two tributes”, and “there won’t be enough time” and “what about all the other grandkids?”
This is something I did for my Nanny, and I’d like to do the same for Grandma. I’ve tried to explain this is my way of dealing with grief, simply to be beaten down to a point where I feel hurt, cheated and lied to. This coming from an Uncle that hasn’t spoken or acknowledged me as a Nephew in over 10 years.
It saddens me to the core, when such dissagreements can erupt on an occasions such as this.
I’m very sorry Uncle, that you never got to know me over the last ten years, or in fact any part of my life. Perhaps our relationship would have been different otherwise, but I am no lacky, I am my own person; and I don’t take kindly to being told by anyone how to process my grief. I wish I could understand your reasons for being so inflexible and incongruent but you have stepped across a line today. I’m inclined to leave you there, and move on. May your true colours shine bright.
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I’m sorry to hear about your Uncle trying to stop you reading your poem. I don’t see what his problem is. It’s not like all the grandkids want to do a reading. When Dad’s childhood friend died a couple of years ago each of his 3 children stood and did a reading along with a couple of other people. Everyone who wanted to say something did. Nobody should stop you saying your poem.
My Great Nan died when I was a teenager and somebody made the decision that I would babysit my younger cousin (at his house) while everyone else went to the funeral. I wasn’t happy and still don’t like the fact that I was stopped going to my Great Nan’s funeral.
DAMIAN AS I HAVE TOLD YOU IT IS THEIR LOSS NOT YOURS,GRANDMA WOUILD
BE SO VERY PROUD OF YOU,INDEED SHE WAS.AS W3 ARE.XX
SORRY IT SHOULD BE, WE,
Well said Damian. I have no doubt that Grandma would have been enormously proud that she was the subject of a poem and thoroughly ashamed of the way you were prevented from paying your tribute to her. Sadly you were up against some people who for years have corrupted and distorted the truth and colluded with each other for so long, they actually have fixed beliefs about incidents which occured years ago which have little or no baring to the reality of the situation and in so doing, placaded a lot of guilt and made it easier for them to get on with their lives irrespective of the people who’s lives were affected. But then again Damian you can choose your friends……….etc.
DAD