So, after work I spent the evening wandering around the Mall with a mate, and guess what; it was the best fun I could have without spending loads of money!! It’s so easy to flirt in that environment too - the number of ‘cute’, ‘potentially available’ females working there is phenomenal, and since -

a) They work there
b) They want to sell you stuff
c) They ‘have’ to talk to you
d) They ‘have’ to be nice to you (generally, see ‘b’)

They become the PERFECT subject to practice your chatting-up skills and flirting skills on. Unfortunately I got a little carried away with it and my mate is watching on in awe (or shock); I was trying to impart some of my concepts to the idea of flirting and chatting-up and basically it’s all about banter and having fun with your subject(s) (sometimes at their expense and rarely at yours!)

Put it this way, I finish the night off by wandering up to a completely EMPTY delli-counter where this mighty fine blonde is currently clearing things away ready to shut shop, I pause thoughtfully staring at the empty shelf, she switches off the illumination for the counter and I quickly make eye contact and say as seriously as possible “oh! I was trying to decide between the pastry and the pannini?!!”; to which she beams a bright wide smile at my obvious tom-foolery and I smuggly walk away.

Point being, it really is that simple; my aim is usually simply to raise a smile, and brighten someone’s day, if I push a little further that sometimes leads to the odd phone number,email and perhaps a date! As guys we often take approaching women waaaaaay too serious! I’m so over that. I also thouroughly recommend a Mall over clubbing or pubs any day!! since it’s a more natural environment and you (should) feel a lot less pressured by the whole approaching deal (I know I don’t).

I find being attentive to your surroundings and environment crucial in my arsenal of flirting weapons! For example you wander near an information desk just as they are announcing someone’s name (if the announcer is a cute female) then you approach and say something similar but not the same for example; they call out “G Edwards please come to information”, you ask “Did you say ‘B’ Edwards??” it’s a clear ice breaker, and if they repeat the announcement within 5 minutes go straight back and say “Did you say ‘C’ Edwards” - raises obvious smiles and the conversation/flirting continues!! It’s all about pushing against people’s social boundaries - don’t be afraid to. The start of this begins with pushing your own social boundaries once you realise what they are!

So something else I do is I walk away from each encounter with a little something I can use in my next encounter. For example a beauty therapist is offering free cream to passers by, with the claim it will make them young and beautiful - I bust her balls about it, for a while; but allow her to test some on me.

Later on in a shop I am at the counter about to purchase an item, and I say to the woman “Can I ask you a serious question?” this is obviously rhetorical on my part since she ‘has’ to say yes! (see point d) to which I then proceed by asking “Do you think I am young and beautiful?”; to which she will generally say ‘yes of course’ with a smile (see point d) in which case you rebuke her and say “No no! You’re supposed to say no?!” or you can say “Damn?! the cream ‘does’ work after all?!”; and carry on with your flirting.

Anyway, so let’s say the woman said ‘no’ but in a tongue-in-cheek way because she knew your just messing about, you can then take that away with you for you next encounter with the beauty therapist…. “hey?! This cream doesn’t work!!” - geddit?